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 I've been encouraged by so many people lately concerning Proverbs 31 Wardrobe Ministry and I cannot wait to see where God will take us! For those joining us for the first time, Proverbs 31 Wardrobe Ministry is a ministry geared towards promoting modesty, godliness, purity, and holiness in Christian women. We believe in the Word of God that states that a god-fearing woman is clothed with strength and dignity (Proverbs 31:25). In a society that emphasizes nakedness and lust, we strive to honor the Lord, not just in our personal walk with Christ, but also in our speech, our conduct, and in our fashion choices. Our ultimate goal is to glorify the Lord, be our sister's keepers, and strive to emulate the love of Christ in our day-to-day lives.  By the special grace of God we will be launching the non-profit vision of P31WM next year and expand globally. For February's P31WM feature, I am wearing a casual outfit that can be worn to young adults and singles events or out with friends. I've always wanted to wear all-white, but I love color too much therefore I decided to accent the outfit with splashes of color. Check out more pictures below and details on where the outfit pieces were bought from.

Making A Godly Choice

Have you been faced with the struggle of choosing between two or more things knowing that your future depends on that single choice?  Aside from making the decision to accept the Lord Jesus Christ as my Lord and personal Savior many years ago, the only other time I've felt the gravity of a decision was deciding to drop out of my engineering courses to pursue a degree in pharmacy. I basically had an anxiety attack. I thought about how I was going to tell friends I was changing majors and the stigma that came with that, I thought about how the extra years in school meant I wouldn't be able to financially assist my parents sooner, I thought my own happiness and how I was going to spend almost my entire 20s in school, and I thought about the work that making this change will require. I panicked and I ran to the feet of my Father and spent an entire night crying to the Lord.  I alway say it was a good thing I lived by myself at that moment because my heart was so heavy that I lacked words to say to God so I simply cried and not those pretty cries and sobs, but the type of crying where you cannot breathe nor see due to the tears and mucus. All I managed to say to God was, "Help me, Father" over and over again. Unbeknown to me, God had brought me exactly where He wanted me, at His feet, completely selfless and seeking for His direction and Will for my life. You see, when it comes to making a godly choice, we must recognize our helplessness and likewise recognize that God is Omniscient, Omnipresent, and Omnipotent. The Lord knows all concerning that decision before you, His presence is already in the future of the result of the decision, and He has all the power to guide you in your choices. The Word of the Lord says,

"Who is the man that fears the Lord? Him shall He teach in the way He chooses."- Psalm 25:12

It is important to allow the Lord to teach us in the way we should go because we tend to reason differently from the Lord. When it comes to making choices, we lean towards our past experiences, what our eyes can see, what we feel emotionally at that moment,  and towards the person or thing that we have the most history with; however, the Lord searches the inner heart of all things. The disciples of Jesus Christ knew that Scripture said "Let another take his (Judas) office" (Acts1:20) so they had the burden of finding a replacement for Judas after Judas betrayed Jesus. With this huge decision before them, the apostles began to reason how to make a godly choice. From their reasoning, they concluded that the one who will be the new 12th disciple must be someone who has been with them throughout the entire time they spent with Jesus, from the baptism of Jesus, to His death and resurrection. From this criteria, they narrow the choice down to two men, Barsabas and Matthias. Both man had history with them, both man had gone through experiences with them, and emotionally the disciples must have loved both men, but before making any decision, their final and most important step was to inquired of the Lord.

" And they prayed and said, "You, O Lord, who know the hearts of all, show which of these two You have chosen."- Acts 1:24

What Does God Want From Me?

I remember there was a movie I once watched with Mel Gibson called, "What Women Want." In the movie he accidently received the ability to hear what women were thinking around him and he used this power to his advantage. As I thought about the topic of this blog (What Does God Want From Me) that movie came to mind and that's when I realized that in order to know what God wants from me, I must know His mind. Is it possible to know the Mind of God? If so, what is the mind of God? To answer the first question, yes it is possible to know the mind of God. We are told in Amos 3:7 that, " Surely the Lord God does nothing, unless He reveals His secret to His servants the prophets". To answer the second question, the mind of God is nothing else but His Word revealed in the Holy Scriptures. The Scripture in Proverbs 4:20-22 says, "My son give attention to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. Do not let them depart from your eyes; keep them in the midst of your heart; for they are life to those who find them, and health to all their flesh." By searching His Word, I've found that what God wants from me is very simple. God wants Me. Period. We forsake the grace and mercy of salvation when we assume God wants things from us. When we assume God wants things from us, we are inadvertently telling the Lord that we can earn salvation and we can earn His love. We get busy throwing gifts at God in order to earn favor from Him and to get on His good side when the Lord simply only wanted us. The only purpose of our existence is to honor the Lord.

"I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service" -Romans 12:1 (NKJV)

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I'm so excited to be featuring the first Proverbs31 Wardrobe Ministry of 2016! I am excited because I feel closer to actualizing the full vision and purpose of Proverbs31-WM. I believe in my heart that in the next 2 years, God will be glorified fully through P31WM as we launch our outreach and non-profit aspect of this ministry. Until then, we will continue to honor God by sharing modest outfit inspirations and encouraging our sisters in Christ to continue to chase after righteousness.

Purpose vs. Time

God has an interesting way of speaking to His people. Recently the phrase "purpose driven" has been on my heart and I have this urgency to be about my Father's business. It's as though the Holy Spirit is saying, "The devil has many agents in the world actively carrying out their John 10:10 agenda. I need you and My people to be My agents to let the world know about eternal life in Me. You have a purpose! Carry it out!" To confirm His Word, the Holy Spirit opened my eyes to see something hidden on my instagram page.

As I was checking a notification on phone, my eyes saw that the white spaces of the things I've recently uploaded formed a cross (I highlighted in red). In addition, the phrase "Purpose over Popularity" was directly in the middle. It may not seem like much to you, but I knew God was speaking to me and so I've spent some time trying to understand what the Lord is saying. My study brought me back to the book of Ecclesiastes 3 :1 which says,

"To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven."

I've read this same Scripture countless of times; however, this time around God made me understand there's an expiration date for every purpose. We must do what God has asked us to do at the specific time God has commanded for us to act. Once that time expires, the purpose is invalid. The conclusion of the matter is that we must understand not only our purpose in life, but also the time tied to those purposes. Jesus understood this principle of purpose vs. time and demonstrated it to us all.

Is There Room For Me in Heaven?

When a semester in school ends, I pack my bags and I joyfully head to Houston to my parent's house. There is no question in my mind if there will be food for me to eat when I get home neither am I bothered about where I will sleep because I know that I have a room in my father's house. I know that there's a place in the house specifically left untouched in anticipation of my arrival. It has already been established and known by all that that's FeeFe's room and so when I arrive at home, I take my bags into my room and settle in. While I have an earthly father who has a room for me in his house, I also have a Heavenly Father who has a house. The question then remains this: Is there room for me in heaven? Is heaven preparing a space specifically in anticipation of my arrival? Is heaven even anticipating my arrival? These are the questions that the Lord has on my heart. The years we live on earth are all important, the careers we are working so hard at are good, the dreams and relationships we desire are also good things, but eternity is waiting for everyone. Where will you be spending it? In the Holy Word of God, Jesus said, 

"In My Father's house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also"-John 14:2-3

In the Greek translation, the word mansions is monḗ which means "dwelling place" or "room". Jesus has promised that He is going back to the Father's house to create a room for His children so that we may live with Him for all of eternity. This means we must belong to the family of God in order to live with the Father. Jesus went on to declare, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me" and this declaration shows that the only way to know with full confidence that there will be room for us in Heaven is if we are walking and working with Christ Jesus. Have you done anything to deserve a room in the Father's house? Better still, are you even His child?

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Happy New Month, lovelies! As always I am excited to share the 10th edition of Proverbs 31 Wardrobe Ministry. The importance of these posts was magnified over the last few days by the  controversy that surrounded the statement of NBA superstar Steph Curry's wife, Ayesha Curry. What was the "atrocious" statement that causes such an uproar? Read it below. 

3 Reasons To Be Thankful

Thanksgiving is a time for one to stop and reflect on the goodness of God and to offer unto the Lord the sacrifices of praise from our lips and hearts for all that He has done. There are times when it is very easy to thank God. When we obtain a new car/home/luxury item, are promoted at work, gain admission into a top university or program, expand our families with the birth of a child, or an engagement, the natural human reaction is to rejoice and exclaim, "Thank God!"; however, many people may be experiencing this Thanksgiving season with a broken heart and finding a reason to be thankful may be very hard.  In moments like these we must pause and encourage ourselves with the Word of God and find reasons to be thankful. We have been given the power to govern our emotions therefore we must choose to be thankful in spite of the cards this year has dealt us. If you are finding it hard to be thankful this season, here are three sure reasons to give God thanks.

1. You Are Still Here!

"Unless the Lord had been my help, my soul would soon have settled in silence."-Psalm 94:17"

What you have gone through may have destroyed other people but by the special grace of God, you are still standing! God has been faithful even right there in the midst of your trials and His mercy has kept you to see today. The mere fact that you are still here means God has a plan and there is still hope! Rejoice in the hope that we have in Christ Jesus.

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Hello, beautiful people! It's another Proverbs 31 Wardrobe Ministry post and I am so excited because I have a special guest today for the November feature!  Today's guest of honor is the lovely Ms. Angela Ihenacho. Angela is a college student majoring in nursing and she's from Houston, Texas. She is a devoted follower of Jesus Christ and her hobbies include reading and being around God-fearing people. She loves the outdoors and loves participating in sports. Today, she not only shared her take on modesty, but also left an encouraging message for her fellow sisters in Christ. Check out the rest of the post to read more and be encourage!

The Best Came Last

"Saving the best for last".
"Good things come to those that wait."
"Last, but not the least."

I am sure you've heard those phrases before, but have you ever wondered where they originated from? I must admit that I personally have not thought about it until recently when these phrases kept repeating themselves in my heart. There are times in our lives when God just wants us to know that He is saving the best for last. If God has the power to do all things at any moment He desires, why then does He wait until it almost becomes too late before He releases His best? The answer is that there are certain things that must first align themselves, before God releases His best. These things include the condition of your heart, your obedience to God, and God's perfect timing. All of these principles are illustrated perfectly in John Chapter two at the wedding where Jesus performed His first miracle.

"Now both Jesus and His disciples were invited to the wedding. And when they ran out of wine the mother of Jesus said to Him, "They have no wine". And Jesus said to her, " Woman, what does your concern have to do with Me? My hour has not yet come. His mother said to the servants, "Whatever He says to you, do it".- John 2: 2-5

Girl Talk #4: Become The Love You Seek

Today is the last blog post in the Girl Talk series that I started four Saturdays ago. The first week dealt with how to become The Ms. Independent Christian Woman, week two talked about Cleaning Out the Friend's List, and last week I discussed the importance of having a good name and legacy in the post Remember My Name. Before now I did not feel the need to touch one of the most talked about subject to women, which is the subject of love; however, love matters. Whether we are talking about love between family members, friends, or spouses, somehow that idea of what love really is has been diluted and lost in this generation. How is it that the one thing everyone seeks for and desires the most is also the one thing that is misunderstood the most? We have become a hurting and lonely generation because we are searching for something we have NOT yet become. Love, as you've probably heard many times, is not a feeling. Love is the conscious decision to become someone who not only looks past the imperfections of the object of your love, but then extends grace to that someone by treating them as though they are perfect and deserving of your affection. We can agree that that is the definition of love because that's exactly what God has done for us and the Word of God lets us know that God IS love(1 John 4:8). The Father decided to look past all of our sins and send His Only Begotten Son to die a death He did not deserve just to redeem us back to Himself. He then went further by allowing us to have a relationship with Him wherein He showers us with new mercies and tender kindness each day.No one is deserving of such a gesture, yet the Lord did it. As a result, God is in a position where He can ask us to love Him with all of our heart, soul, strength and mind (Luke 10:27) because He has freely given us the exact thing He is asking from us. The Bible tells us that we love Him because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). God become love first and that is why it is easy for us to reciprocate that love. In the same way, we ourselves must first become love before we can give love and before we can know for certainty that what we are being offered from others is in fact, love. So, let's become love.

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Hi beautiful people! It's a new month and a new Proverbs 31 Wardrobe Ministry post! Today I'm sharing an outfit I recently wore to church. The vision of P31WM is to encourage women to honor God in the spirit and in the flesh. The Bible says we are wonderfully and fearfully made and part of actualizing this is to ensure that our physical representation of ourselves does not contradict the Word of God. I hope that as you walk on your journey that you will be encouraged in knowing that you have many sisters in Christ Jesus who are cheering for you and also receiving encouragement from you.  Continue to see where similar pieces can be purchased from.

Girl Talk #3: Remember My Name

Two saturdays ago I started the Girl Talk series which focuses on areas of a young woman's life that I feel are often overlooked. The first week I talked about being the Ms. Independent Christian Woman and last week I discussed the issue of Cleaning Out the Friend's List. (You can click on each link to catch up on the series). Today I want to discuss the importance of having a legacy and a good name. The Bible tells us that, " a good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, loving favor rather than silver and gold."( Proverbs 22:1) Whether we acknowledge it or not, every day we live is another page added to the autobiography that we are writing about our lives and every birthday is like another chapter in this book. The question is, "when you are done writing your autobiography, will it be worth reading?". More importantly, will God want to publish your autobiography? The Holy Bible contains amazing biographies of many great women, but two women have a Book named after them: Ruth and Esther. When you study both women and both books, you find out that these ladies were radical for the things of God. Ruth, even after the death of her husband, disregarded tradition, forsook her gods, and boldly told Naomi, "Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, and there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, if anything but death parts you and me." ( Ruth 1:17). When Esther realized what was about to become of her people, she  asked her people and servants to fast and pray then she stood on faith and boldy declared, " And so I will go to the king, which is against the law; and if I perish, I perish!" (Esther 4:16). Both women were willing to do the unthinkable and venture into unknown places solely based on their trust in the God of Israel. How do we become these women? What are the things we should be doing now to ensure our names are not only remembered, but remembered for good?

Girl Talk #2: Cleaning Out the Friend's List

Last Saturday I started a series called "Girl Talk" in which I will be discussing some of the issues I see young women facing. The first blog of the series, The Ms. Independent Christian Woman, dealt with the need for Christian women to start young in building up themselves spiritually and in every other aspect of life. Today as I was preparing for this blog on friendship, I remembered that I have this analogy where I always compare my life to a house in which the different rooms of this "house" represents different stages of friendship. This analogy may seem a bit strange, but it is actually Biblical. To explain further, the Holy Word of God says,

" The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands"-Proverbs 14:1

Simply put, the Word of the Lord is saying that if I, as a woman, desire to be wise, then the things I do with my hands should be things that generate growth and progress in my house; however, if I am a foolish woman, the things I do with my hands will tear down or pull down my house. To establish the fact that the word "house" can refer to both the physical house and to our lives we have to remember that we were told that we are the temple of the Lord and that the Spirit of God dwells in us (1 Corinthians 3:16) meaning we carry the very presence of the Lord with us as we live daily. If the Spirit of the Most High God dwells in us, the question that naturally follows to me is, "Who else is dwelling in us"? This is where my analogy of my life being a house and the different rooms in that house representing the different levels of friendship comes into play. When it comes to cleaning our our lives and our friendship list, we must first establish the standards for each room of our houses so that we know what belongs and what God is asking us to release. In a typical house you have the front porch or front door, the general living home, a kitchen, bathrooms, bedrooms, and a master bedroom.

Girl Talk #1: The Ms. Independent Christian Woman

Today I am starting a series called "Girl Talk". For the next 4 saturdays I will be blogging about different issues that I see young ladies facing. The idea of these posts came to me after I noticed that over 50 percent of my readers are women who fall between the ages of 18-35 years old. This is the age range where majority of the important decisions we will make in life will occur. As someone who is also in that age range, I am in constant prayer to God asking Him for directions on how to navigate this period of my life. The first thing that God has laid in my heart to share is that we must not waste time. One of the most dangerous thing we can do is to forget the essence of time. We know that the Bible says that there's a season for everything and a time for every purpose (Ecclesiastes 3:1), so what time is it in your life? If you do not have an answer to that question, then you are wasting time and falling into the trap of the devil called unfulfillment. The devil does not mind you living as long as your are not living the life God meant for you! This trap has already been revealed in the Word of God.

"Rejoice, O young [wo]man in your youth, and let your heart cheer you in the days of your youth; Walk in the ways of your heart, and in the sight of your eyes; But know that for all these God will bring you into judgement." - Ecclesiastes 11:9

As you can see, the devil disguised unfulfillment under the covering of fun and carefreeness.  Deception says," follow your heart and do whatever looks good in your eyes because you are too young to be so serious with life!", while the voice of Truth is screaming, " My daughter, the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked", (Jeremiah 17:9). The voice we choose to listen to reveals who we belong to. The Word of God says that we are a slave to whatever overcomes us (2 Peter 2:19) therefore if we are overcomed by our our eyes and our heart, then we are slaves to the flesh. No one who walks in the flesh can please the Lord so God has called us to walk in the liberty wherewith Christ has made us free. God has called us all to be Independent Women! As a daughter of the Most High God, you have a purpose that is beyond you and God has given you all the tools you need to exercise your independence in every area of your life starting now! Two main areas to start being independent in is in your walk with God and in your ambitions.

But What If You Didn't...?

Three years ago I started blogging because I felt the urge to do so. At the time I had no idea how long I would be blogger or what will eventually become of my blog posts. As I write this I still do not know the answers to those initial questions. All I know is that this was what God was calling me to do. The only instruction I received was, "write only what I give you to say".  Over the last three years I've seen the growth in my Christian faith as a result of blogging. I grew up spiritually because in order to know what God was telling me to share, I had to have first spent time in His presence. In essence, blogging has forced me to prioritize my walk with God. It would be very hypocritical of me to "preach" the Word of God on my blog yet live a life that is contrary to my posts; as a result, I am more sensitive to the things of God and the voice of God and for that I am grateful. What if you didn't do what God has called you to do? This is such a scary question because there are destinies attached to your obedience to God. 
 As I reflect back on my three years of operating this blog, I think about all the experiences I have gone through. I read the emails and comments from people who share with me how they stumbled upon a blog post that ministered to them at a crucial time in their life and I cannot believe that my little obedience to God encouraged someone whom I will probably never meet in person. In addition, at times I view where my blog is being accessed from and I think to myself, "I may never in this lifetime visit that country, yet my words have gone there." These awe moments made me to question, but what if I didn't start blogging?  That is the same question that is upon my heart tonight.

Praying for My Unborn Child(ren)

Disclaimer: I am not married therefore I am not expecting a child. I just wanted to make that clear because of the tittle of this blog. Don't get any ideas, people! Now that that's out of the way, if you

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In the last couple of weeks I've had experiences that have left me feeling troubled in my spirit and both experience involved children. In my first experience, I went to a WalMart to buy scrubs for the intravenous admixtures class I was taking. While I was sorting through the scrubs to find my size I heard the voice of a woman screaming and cursing at a boy that appeared to be about 8 years old. She walked without caring if the child was keeping up with her. When she realized the boy was not walking fast enough, she turned around and verbally insulted this child.  I watched as this poor baby hurriedly ran past me with tears in his eyes as he tried to catch up to the woman I am assuming is his mother.  I had no idea who this woman was, but I felt like crying for the sake of the boy. A few days after this experience I was parking my car when a mother and 4 children between the ages of 3 and 10 walked up the car parked besides my car. The mother was on the phone and every other word that came out of her mouth was vulgar. She then directed her anger from her phone call to her children. As I walked away I could hear her calling her daughters derogatory names and I could see the fear in their faces. Once again a part of my heart cried.  I cried in both instances because I knew that what I witnessed in both experiences were not isolated events. I cried because I knew these children were innocent and precious before God, yet their parents will probably never let them know.  Around the time these experiences occurred, I was finishing up my study of the book of Ephesians and that's where God taught me the importance of the parent-child relationship.

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Welcome to the 7th edition of Proverbs 31 Wardrobe Ministry! Our motto here at P31-WM is "clothed with strength and dignity" (Proverbs31:25b). Today I am sharing another outfit I wore to church this month. As Christian women, it is so important for us not to neglect the physical aspect of our spiritual walk. As we strive to honor the Lord, that effort should transform not only our hearts, but our physical appearance. Below I've added some pictures and included information on where similar clothing pieces can be bought online so check it out! 

What are You Eating: Milk or Meat?

During my last trip to Houston I was able to visit one of my aunts who just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. During the course of my stay with the family, the baby got hungry and my aunt asked me to help her feed the child. She got the food ready, handed it to me, and  I proceeded to feed the infant.
I'm sure as you read the above scene you more than likely envisioned me feeding the child a bottle that contained infant formula and not a steak and potato meal. Why? Most likely because you understood that I was feeding a new born child and babies have not matured up to the stage of eating solid food. If I wrote the above scene but changed to details to me preparing a meal for my father, you would not imagine me serving my father a bottle. Why? Again because you understand that my father, a grown man, would require heavier food to sustain him. As Christians, the same principles apply to us. After feeding on milk for a while, God expects us to grow and start eating solid food. We cannot remain Christian babies forever.

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"For everyone that uses milk is unskillful in the word of righteousness: for he is a babe. But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil."- Hebrews 5: 13-14