The Unmarried Man

Many times in life we wander around aimlessly living each day with no purpose. We wake up not having the slightest clue of what we want out of our day talk-less of actually implementing a plan that will draw us closer to our destiny. God did not create us to live without knowing where we are going or why we were made. Each day of our lives, each phase, and every experience of life was ordained by God to lead us to a place He destined for us. It is therefore vital that we understand which stage of life we are in. The Holy Scriptures tell us, " To every thing there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven." (Ecclesiastes 3:1) Today I want to zoom in on the life of a man of God and in a later blog, I will bring the discussion to the women. The Word of God describes two stages in a man's life: the Unmarried man and the Married-man, but today's blog will deal with the unmarried man. God laid out a blueprints for both the unmarried and married man using the life of Adam.

1. Unmarried Man: Appreciate Your Garden

"And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. The Lord God planted a garden eastward of Eden, and there He place the man whom He had formed"-Genesis 2:7-8

Stage one of a man's life begins the day he is born. God formed Adam and strategically placed Adam in the garden of Eden, which was customized for him. The later verses in Genesis chapter two describes how God made all the trees of the garden and furnished the garden with rivers and all living things. Everything that Adam could possibly need or want was in the location God placed him. This is to show that as a man, where you find yourself today is where God placed you and all you need to succeed and be who He called you to be is around you. Most men fail to realize this. They get hung up on "Ohs" of life. Men that are not in America lament, "Oh,  if I was in America I will make it in life".  Men that didn't get the degrees they wanted cry, "Oh if I had finished college I would be set!" while many regret their upbringing by saying,  "Oh if I had a better family/ if I grew up richer I would be so happy". The "Ohs" of life cause them to loose sight of the garden that God has placed them in. They begin to think the grass in their garden is not green enough or that God did not put enough provisions in the garden therefore they allow discouragement to rise within them and lead them to forget the purpose behind their placement in the garden in the first place. Your garden, regardless of what it looks like, is a place of discovery, a place where character is developed and purpose is found, but most importantly, your garden is a place you can enjoy the presence of the Lord.

2. Unmarried Man: Know Your Purpose and Vision

"But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord."- 1 Corinthians 7:32

After placing Adam in the garden of Eden, God brought every living creature before Adam and Adam's job was to name them.  God also gave Adam the responsibility of tending and keeping the garden. The unmarried man's desires should be the things of God and how to please God. It is in this stage of your life that you seek God's Will for your life and understand the very purpose for which you were made. Engulf yourself in the service of God and take time to study the Word of God for yourself that you may lead your future home in the way of the Lord. As an unmarried man, answer these questions: Do you know why you are living? What are the visions God has shown you? Where are you going in life? The book of Hosea chapter four verse six says, " My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge", but the important part of that scripture is that the people are destroyed not because there was no knowledge, but because they rejected the knowledge therefore God rejected them! If you desire to know your purpose, go to the Lord in prayer, seek His face and ask Him! He will reveal it to you. He promised,  "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given to him."- James 1:5

3. Unmarried Man: Choose Your Wife Carefully

"And the Lord God said, " It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a help comparable to him"- Genesis 2:18

Towards the end of Adam's unmarried man stage, the Lord created a helper in the form of a women and presented her to him. Adam immediately recognized the woman and called her his wife, "bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh" (Genesis 2:23). It is important to recognize that the woman was a helper therefore the unmarried-man before he seeks marriage must know what God called him for in order to know which women is the right helper for the call of God upon his life. The Bible says, " He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22), but the same Bible also says, " It is better to live in a corner on the roof than to share a house with a contentious woman" (Proverbs21:9). The difference between choosing a wife that will bring you peace and choosing a wife that will destroy you lies in whether or not as an unmarried man, you've met the criteria listed in point number two! Knowing yourself and your purpose makes it easy to know who your wife is.

To illustrate this, imagine two surgeons enter two different operation rooms to perform surgery and both bring along their surgical technologists, who are people that hand surgeons their tools during surgery. In the middle of the surgery,  one surgeon ask the surgical technologist to hand him a tool, but the technologists has no idea what the tool is, while the second surgeon asks the same question and his technologist knows the tool and hands it to the surgeon.  There will be chaos in one operation room and if care is not taken, the patient may die or have prolonged surgery, while the other room where both the surgeon and the technologist are on the same page will more than likely have a successful surgery. As an unmarried man, you do not want to have the wrong helper with you as you go about the operation God called you to perform. It will be too late to wait until you are in the operation room to question if you have the right team with you so seek God and let God present her to you.

There is so much to be done while you are unmarried so be diligent in this stage and season and build your foundation firmly on Christ. The Word of God calls a person who slacks off during a period of preparation a disgrace. The Bible says, " He who gathers in the summer is a son who acts wisely, but he who sleeps in harvest is a son who acts shamefully" (Proverbs 10:5).  As with women, your unmarried days are your days of harvest, a time for you to prepare yourself in anticipation of harsher weather that will come. It is a time to fill up on character therefore use this time wisely. Surround yourself with likeminded people, seek God, know His Words, and be about your Father's business. Your future self, wife, and children will appreciate you for it.

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T.M.V- Psalm 1:1-2

"Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly Nor stands in the path of sinners Nor sits in the seat of the scornful; But his delight is in the law of the Lord, And in His law he meditates day and night"